Single Life: It’s Only as Terrible as YOU Make It

Honestly, being single is only as terrible as you make it. If you constantly find yourself complaining about how no one is ever going to love you, how you’re going to end up living alone with your cat, or how awful it is to not have someone at your age to spend all of your free time with…well yeah, you’re probably going to feel like shit.

You’re only focusing on the negative side of being single, but let me show you the positive side. Now I know I’m not always the most optimistic person, but I’ve learned that being single is a part of life (but it’s not your whole life).

One of the greatest things about being single is that you have time to work on yourself. I’ve found myself becoming a more confident person in my time being single. I’m pursuing things that I would have never had the courage to pursue if I had a boyfriend.

You have more free time to spend with your friends, your family, and just by yourself.

Also, I don’t care how long you’ve been single… be it 10 days or 10 years, you will find someone. Life changes so quickly that you don’t even notice it sometimes. Stop getting down on yourself because of the “terrible odds” of finding that perfect partner. Believe in yourself and everything will turn out fine.

Don’t forget that pesky little “Law of Attraction”. Negativity breeds negativity. If you are putting yourself out there as a negative nancy and complaining about how hard it is to live the single life, your dates are going to pick up on it, and they’re not going to get good vibes. Focus on the good things in your life, and they’ll get good vibes.

Remember that not everyone is going to like you, but that doesn’t mean that nobody does.

Here are some things that are important to remember during this single time in your life:

  1. You are important.
  2. You are kind.
  3. You are wanted.
  4. You are loved.
  5. You are the only you there is.
  6. Be willing to fail… failure brings about the greatest discoveries.
  7. You need to put yourself out there.
  8. You are better than any of the doubts that anyone has about you (including yourself).
  9. Do things that you enjoy.
  10. You aren’t the only one in your situation.
  11. Life changes, and you will be surprised when it changes for the better.
  12. Breathe, be patient, and focus on you.

And as always…

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

How to Stay Mind-Healthy and Happy: Winter

The Winter months bring on cold weather, sickness, finals, and seasonal depression, but they also bring peppermint candles, bubble baths, Christmas, and time with your family. Here are a few things that I’ve put together for you to keep a healthy and happy life during these months.

Pamper. Pamper. PAMPER.

One of my favorite things about Winter is being able to run myself a bubble bath, fix myself a nice hot cup of hot chocolate, put on my fluffy bathrobe, and cozy up to read a book or watch a holiday movie. It is so important to take some time for yourself and revel in what is good about the season.

Work out.

It is proven that working out can help with anxiety and moods, and what better time to start getting your body right then when finals are happening? If you are getting anxious about your exams, or really anything, take a few minutes a day to work out. Run on the treadmill, do some stretching or yoga… do anything that gets your blood pumping and sends those lovely endorphins out into your body.

Eat healthily, but always have a cheat day.

It is important with any diet to have a day where you can cave and eat that cupcake that has been sitting there mocking you. If you never give yourself the opportunity to eat something a little unhealthy, you’ll cave a lot more and feel guilty about it. So plan out your meals, eat healthily, but don’t forget to occasionally indulge in your favorites.

Don’t let money stress you out.

The holidays can be hectic. You have so many people to give gifts to and you may not have the money to do it. So what’s a good alternative? Make some homemade gifts. Some examples include canvases, homemade hot chocolate, pastries, homemade bath bombs, etc. Try something new for the holidays, and it could save you a lot of money.

Take time to reflect.

If the Winter isn’t important for anything else, it’s important for having time to reflect on the past year and figure out what you need to work on for the next one. Hello… what do you think New Year’s Resolutions are for. However, you should do this regularly (not just in the wintertime).

Give Thanks, Be Appreciative.

You should always remember to be grateful for the things that you have as well as the people that you have in your life. Never take them for granted. Call up an old pal and thank them for being in your life.

All in all, don’t stress too much. Give yourself a break when you need to… you deserve it. And don’t forget to…

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

 

Becoming a More Adult-y Adult

It’s hard to think that this time next month I’ll be officially an adult. Living in an apartment, off campus, not relying on anybody. Of course, my parents would help me if I asked them to, but for the first time, I’ll be on my own.

It’s kinda scary. It’s scary knowing that from here on out, it’s up to me to budget, cook, clean, etc.

It’s also kinda exhilarating…officially being able to say you have your own place, I mean. Being 21 years old and being able to say you have your own little place to go home to after a long day, is crazy.

It’s also sad. Leaving the roommates that I’ve had this year and that have been so great to me… leaving the roommates I’ve had in the years past. It’s sad. But the good news is that I will still be able to see them. I still go to the same school; we will still cross paths. It’s also sad because my family house will not be my house anymore, but it will ALWAYS be HOME.

I’ll miss all of the things that are good about living on campus, with my friends, but this is a decision that is best for me at this time in my life. I need to be responsible. I need to learn to take care of myself.

I’ll be able to focus on my schoolwork more, I’ll be able to eat more healthy without relying on a meal plan to supply my nutrition, and I’ll be able to give my cat a bigger place to roam.

It was inevitable that this was going to happen, it’s just happening a little sooner than expected.

So here’s to January 2018 and a new start.

Remember that it is ultimately your decision what you want to do with your life, and as always…

Stay Golden,

Emily

What Am I Thankful For?

Happy Thanksgiving, y’all!

I just thought that I would make a list of the most important things that I am thankful for in my life right now. There is obviously a lot more, but here are the most important things in my life. Enjoy!

God. Obviously, God is at the top of my list. I am so thankful for all that God has brought to my life and the fact that He is always there when I need some guidance.

Parents. You guys have shaped my life in so many ways, and I love you. I’m so glad that you are my parents. I would have picked you even if I was able to pick my parents.

Brother. Thank you for always being there for me. I’m so glad that you are in my life. I miss you, Justin!

Grandparents (and Great-Grandparents). Those who are still alive, and those who are not… that have still impacted my life in ways I would never know.

Aunts, Uncles, Cousins. I’m so thankful to have y’all in my life. You make the holidays a little more bright.

Cats. Nemo, Midnight, Missy, and Yo-Yo.

Sisterhoods. I am so thankful for Phi Mu and Alpha Delta Theta for bringing me close to girls that I could not see me living my life without. You all mean the world to me.

Friends. Y’all rock! Thank you for being here when I need a break from studying or just a distraction from all that is my stressful life.

Professors, Mentors. Thank you for showing me that I have the ability to accomplish all that I have set as a goal for myself.

Pharmacy School. The fact that I am able to be in pharmacy school right now is a gift in and of itself. It may be hard, but it’s been my dream for forever, and I can’t believe I am accomplishing it.

Food, Drink, Clothes, Housing. These are obvious, but I still felt like I should include it.

21 Years of Life. Every day, every hour, every minute of life is a blessing, and I’m so glad to have lived so many of them.

Happiness. Last but not least, I am happy. I’m so glad that I am able to have a little happiness in the chaos that is my life in college.

There are many more things to be thankful for, but I just thought that I would list a few.

Happy Thanksgiving and as always,

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

 

Twenty-One Things to Learn Before Twenty-One

I bet this isn’t going to be what you expected. You’re probably expecting things like “kiss a stranger” or “travel to 21 different places,” but that isn’t what this is about. It’s exactly one month until my twenty-first birthday, and I thought I’d write a blog post that reflects how much I’ve grown over the years. These are twenty-one things that young women should do to improve their life by the time they turn twenty-one.

1. Learn How to be Alone.

I was always the girl growing up that needed to have someone near me at all times. I was scared to even walk down the halls alone. This fueled my need for a boyfriend as time went on, and that was one of the worst things that could have happened. My need for a boyfriend led to me picking people who were not meeting the standards of a decent guy. It took me a long time, but I’ve learned how to be by myself. It’s awkward sometimes, but it’s no longer scary. Quite honestly, it’s much better to be single and independent than taken and unable to have your own life.

2. Learn How to Say No.

If the last one wasn’t hard, this one sure is. I know it was for me. I’m the type of person who wants to make everyone happy. This led to saying ‘yes’ to everything that was asked of me, and it caused me to overexert and over exhaust myself all throughout my life. I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that you cannot please everyone, and my life is much better after coming to that realization.

3. Learn How to Have Positive Self-Talk.

How many of you sit there criticizing every move you make, judging it against someone else on social media, or in person? I’d bet that you all have negative thoughts about yourself on a daily basis. Something that has really helped me over the past few years is positive self-talk. Wake up in the morning, look yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself that you are beautiful, you are kind, you are intelligent, you can make it through. Write it down in a journal. Remind yourself every day that you are your own unique person and that makes you beautiful. It all starts with loving yourself.

4. Learn to Give Back.

One hour a day, one hour a week, one hour a month. It doesn’t matter how often you volunteer out in your community, but it matters that you do. Giving back not only makes things better for those around you, it makes things better for you. You realize how truly blessed you are, and you are able to use your gifts to benefit those less fortunate than you. How amazing is that? Don’t make it seem like a burden. Find something you’re passionate about and volunteer to help that cause. It really makes you feel great and brings positivity to the community.

5. Learn to Let Go.

The past is the past and that’s where it belongs. No, I have not mastered this. I’m not sure I know anyone who has mastered this, but what I do know is that I am definitely growing into a better person as I learn how to let go of the things that don’t matter. Bad test grade? It will be okay. Hurt feelings? It will be okay. Boyfriend cheat on you? It will be okay. Everything happens for a reason, and as sucky as it is to not know the reason, something bigger and better is coming.

6. Learn to Love.

So many people are scared to love. They’ve been hurt in the past, and they are scared to open their heart up again. All this does it hurt you more. You have to open your heart up and be prepared for an amazing person to come along because they will. They will see that you are an amazingly independent person and that you are willing to give your heart to them if they are deserving of it. Love with all your heart because sometimes your love, or a caring heart, is all you can give. It is worth every heartache.

7. Learn to Have Fun.

This one was a bit hard for me when I first realized it was important. I was always the girl that focused on school and didn’t do anything fun with my friends unless I had no work to do. In college, I was able to branch out and involve myself in many different organizations and activities, and that is and always will be a crucial part of my life. Socializing and being with friends isn’t the only way to have fun, though. If Netflix is more your style, just do something you enjoy.

8. Learn to Be On Time.

There is nothing more important than punctuality in the adult world. If you’re late for a meeting, it’ll start without you. One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone is late. Learn to manage your time so that you are early to everything, and it’ll help get rid of a lot of extra stress. There’s no reason to be late to anything unless it’s an emergency, and even then, if you are used to being early and accounting for that lost time, you may still be on time.

9. Learn to Take Risks.

Can you really learn anything if you don’t take a risk? Can anything change if you don’t take a risk? The answer to both of these is no. You have to take risks in order to change the things you don’t like about yourself and your situation. Take any previous presidential candidate who ended up winning the presidency and changing things for good for example, if they hadn’t taken a risk and run for president, would they have been able to make good changes? No.

10. Learn to Take Control.

People aren’t going to do things for you. Life isn’t going to be easy. You are going to have to work hard and do it yourself if you want to see good things happen in your life. Nothing is going to come to you unless you take control of your situation and change things yourself. It’s just not.

11. Learn to Stop Making Excuses.

“I don’t have time” is the biggest and dumbest excuse in the book. You don’t have time to do this project, but you have time to binge watch Netflix? You don’t have time to exercise, but you have time to sit on the couch and eat a whole bag of chips? Look, if there is something that you’ve been meaning to do, do it. (Also, combine things together if you want to make more time. i.e. watching a new TV episode while walking on the treadmill).

12. Learn to Save.

This one is very tricky for a lot of people, but good spending/saving habits should be started as soon as possible in order to prepare you for when you are out on your own. Save as much as you can. Think before you buy. If you won’t use it more than once, don’t buy it. Don’t buy anything if you can’t afford to buy it straight up.

13. Learn to Be a Better Friend.

Your friends deserve the best. They deserve someone who is there for them, always. They deserve you at your best. They deserve a friend who will be there when they need to cry, when they need a ride, when they need to vent…anything. Good friends are hard to come by, so don’t take them for granted. Appreciate them.

14. Learn to Say What You Feel.

Don’t let anything get in the way of you putting your feelings out there. I know fear of rejection is real, but it’s better to get it out there than to wonder ‘what if’. Face your fears and let them know how you feel.

15. Learn to Be Honest.

Be honest with yourself. Be honest with your friends. Be honest with your family. The hardest thing to do is be honest with yourself when you’re in denial, but you can do it. You have to be honest with yourself or you will never truly have the life you deserve. If you are in an abusive relationship (emotionally or physically), get out. Be honest with yourself and admit that it is unhealthy for you.

16. Learn to Stay Close to Your Family.

Your family is super important. They are the ones there for you when you need them the most, no matter what. They may be far away geographically, but they are always in your heart. Spare some time and call them once in a while to catch up, or just to let them know that you miss them. It will make a world of difference in their lives.

17. Learn that Your GPA Doesn’t Define You.

Who really thinks an employer is going to ask you what your GPA was in college? What about a future partner, are they going to ask you that? No. GPA is not important because it isn’t a testimony to who you are as a person. It does not prove your intelligence or lack thereof. It doesn’t matter. Try not to stress so much about it that it drives you crazy, I know I’ve done that for as long as I can remember, and it makes you miserable.

18. Learn to Stop Complaining.

Do you really have it so bad? I know sometimes it feels like the world is caving in on you and nothing is going the way it should, but it could be worse. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I never complain, I’m just saying that the less you complain the happier you are. It’s a proven fact that being grateful for what you have instead of being ashamed of what you cannot have makes you happier.

19. Learn to Detach.

And by this I mean, learn to be away from your phone and social media when you are with people. I’m one of the worst people when it comes to this, but I’m getting better. I know it’s hard being a millennial and having a phone with us 24/7, but trust me, life is so much better when you step away and enjoy your time. I’m not saying that you should never be on your phone, but limit it when you have the chance to experience something worthwhile. I know I need to work on this, and I know I’ll feel accomplished when I am able to.

20. Learn that It’s Okay to Cry.

Crying isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. Don’t be afraid to cry. When everything gets so hard that you just want to sit there and cry, do it. Crying helps you get all of your emotions out without hurting someone or hurting yourself, so do it.

21. Learn that Life Doesn’t Follow Your Plan, and That’s Okay.

Life is a wild ride, it’s a tough ride, but it is so worth it. Every little unpredictable moment is an important one in the story that is your life. Don’t regret anything. Make mistakes, learn from them. Be okay with change. Fix what you can and forget the rest.

All in all, enjoy your life. Stay happy and healthy,

And always…

Stay Golden.

Emily

10 of My Favorite TV Show Quotes for When You Can’t Go On

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“If you aren’t willing to keep looking for light in the darkest of places without stopping, even when it seems impossible, you will never succeed.”-Amelia Shepherd; Grey’s Anatomy

-Amelia Shepherd; Grey’s Anatomy

“Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life that you expect it to always be there. Because you can’t remember a time in your life when it wasn’t, but then one day you feel something else. Something that feels wrong, only because it’s so unfamiliar. then in that moment, you realize you’re happy.”
– Lucas Scott; One Tree Hill

“If you want crappy things to stop happening to you, then stop accepting crap and start demanding more.”

Christina Yang; Grey’s Anatomy

“Tragedies happen. What are you gonna do, give up? Quit? No. I realize now that when your heart breaks, you got to fight like hell to make sure you’re still alive. Because you are. And that pain you feel? That’s life. The confusion and fear? That’s there to remind you, that somewhere out there is something better, and that something is worth it.”
-Nathan Scott; One Tree Hill

“Destiny is for losers. It’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen.”

-Blair Waldorf; Gossip Girl

“Breathe, eat, sleep, wake up, and do it all over again until one day, it’s just not that hard anymore.”

–Elena Gilbert; The Vampire Diaries

“Change, we don’t like it, we fear it, but we can’t stop it from coming. We either adapt to change or we get left behind. And it hurts to grow, anybody who tells you it doesn’t is lying. But here’s the truth: the more things change, the more they stay the same. And sometimes change is good. Oh, sometimes change is . . . everything.”

-Meridith Grey; Grey’s Anatomy

“Life is full of color. And we each get to come along and we add our own color to the painting, you know? And even though it’s not very big, the painting, you sort of have to figure that it goes on forever, you know, in each direction.”

-Kevin Pearson; This Is Us

“It turns out sometimes you have to do the wrong thing. Sometimes you have to make a big mistake to figure out how to make things right. Mistakes are painful, but they’re the only way to find out who we really are.”

– Denny Duquette; Grey’s Anatomy

“Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy. Sometimes it simple means that you are a strong person.”

–Elena Gilbert; The Vampire Diaries

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

 

Prayers and Thoughts

So many awful things happen throughout the world that does not get publicized. We should never forget to be kind to one another regardless of our background. I’m sick and tired of how awful everyone is to each other. I am praying not only for the citizens of Paris, but for the citizens all across the globe. There are awful circumstances everywhere. We only hear of a few of them. Remember that and always pray for the world. We are all a part of the amazing thing we call humanity. Lets all have a little humanity and pray for one another to get through the hard times.

Stay Golden,

Emily

Starting the next chapter of my life AKA College

In just a few weeks, I will be moving from my small town to my dream college.

I’m so very nervous to start school, but I’m also super excited. I get to meet the people that I have been texting ever since I found out that I would be rooming with them or have the same major. I can’t wait to be with all of the people that I have connected with during the past few months.

Friends.

I am super excited to leave the comfort of my home and be able to meet all of the new friends that I am going to make, but I am going to miss my girls back home. Some of my friends have been there for me for basically my whole life, and some of them have only been in my life for a couple years. Either way.. I’m going to miss them all this year.

Family. 

I am going to miss my family like crazy when I go off to school, but thats okay because it’ll make me cherish my time at home that much more. I love them so much and I’m so glad they support me through everything.

Classes.

I am so nervous to start my college classes. I’ve always worked my ass of to make the grades, but that was high school. I’m so scared that college classes are really going to get to me. I’m just glad I have a lot of people there for me to support me in whatever I decide to do with my life.. which I hope is Pharmacy.

Boys.

Now… Theres actually only one boy that I’ll be thinking about, and that is my boyfriend. Its actually kinda great that he is going to the same college as me. I can’t wait to be able to spend more time with him and get to know everything I don’t already know about him.

Clubs.

I’m ready to put myself out there and join some clubs, but I know my bounds. I am not going to join so many that I can’t do anything else. Clubs are great, but they aren’t everything.

Greek Life? Parties?

Now idk about the next girl, but I’m not really into the whole greek scene. Not because I don’t want to have a close relationship with other girls, but bc I know that I would never find the time to do that and school. Also, I’m not a heavy drinker at all, nor do I party, but I will probably go to a few. Who knows.

So The Point Of This Is?

I plan to be myself in college, and even though I’m nervous about what the next years (6 for me!) bring me, I am going to give it all I’ve got. I’m going to make my college experience exactly what I want it to be.

Stay Golden,

Emily