You Will Prevail.

I don’t know about y’all, but I have been having a rough time maintaining my motivation this semester. I’ve been feeling an increasing amount of stress, and it’s been harder to manage than it normally is.

I’m writing this blog post because I’m sure that I’m not the only one who feels like this sometimes.

I want you to know that you’re not alone in this.

It is OKAY to admit that you get overwhelmed sometimes.

It is OKAY to admit that you are exhausted sometimes.

It is OKAY to be unmotivated sometimes.

It is OKAY to want to give up sometimes.

We all go through times when we feel that we can’t handle any more stress or work put on us. There is nothing wrong with you.

When you go through these times, think about why you put yourself into the situation that you are in. For example, when Pharmacy School gets overwhelming, I try to remember the reasons that I’m here. My passion is helping people. I’ve been on this path since I was 12 years old. This is what I have always wanted. I LOVE my profession. Those are the reasons that I’m in this profession. That is why I’m in school. If I keep these motivations in the forefront of my mind, it’s easier to get back to work and focus on what I need to do.

What is it that gets you up in the morning? What is it that motivates you? Try to bring that to the forefront of your mind.

And when in doubt…

Breathe.

You’ve got this!

Stay Golden,

Emily

A Simple Girl Living in a Complex World

Okay, y’all, this is going to be a really rant-y blog post, but it really needs to be said.

I’m just a simple girl trying to live in this complex world around me. I know what I want. In life, in love, etc. I don’t understand why it’s so difficult for other people to be honest with themselves and others about what it is they truly want.

Here’s a run-down of what I truly want.

Career wise:

I want to graduate with HONORS from High Point University with my PharmD degree.

I want to work in an independent pharmacy and eventually save up enough money to take over and own it myself.

Then, I want to pursue my passion for helping people by making appointments with patients to help them consolidate their medications and manage their disease states.

Family wise:

I want to find the love of my life.

I want to find a passionate love that I know I want for the rest of my life.

I want to be treated well, but have a true partnership.

I want to get married and have kids.

I want a small house, preferably on a little bit of land.

I want a dog or two.

I want to live close enough to see my parents/brother pretty often. I love them very much.

I want to focus on my relationship with God and have Him in my marriage.

Financial wise:

I want to live within my means but make sure to travel when I can.

I want to save money when I can.

I want to be able to be generous with my money.

It wasn’t that hard for me to say all of that, but I know other people have a harder time with it. Although I wonder why things have to be so complex, why we have to be so wishy-washy and confused all the time, I know that it’s just the world that we live in.

My hopes are that this generation learn to be true to themselves and what they want out of life. It is important for the future.

One thing is for sure though, even when I finally get to the point that I have reached all of these goals, I will not stop to make myself a better person.

All I want is to be happy and to truly be the best person that I can be.

So here’s to that.

Stay Golden,

Emily

Being Alone But Not Lonely

It’s Autumn, and that means that it is “cuffing season.” Being single can be hard.

It’s hard when everyone around you is getting engaged, getting married, or starting a family. Heck most of my friends will be starting their careers in 2019 or have already done it.

It’s harder still because social media makes you feel like EVERYONE around you is doing these things. “So and so just got engaged”… *insert cute wedding pictures from another couple’s wedding*

Your brain (if you’re anything like me) is constantly nagging at you: “what’s wrong with you?”…”why are you still single?”… “you’re going to be alone forever.”

It’s hard to deal with these emotions, but it’s not impossible. It doesn’t have to be depressing, sad, or stressful to be single.

Here are my tips on how to be alone but not lonely, and how to remind yourself that you still have plenty of time to find that great love:

1. Spend time with other single people. This one is probably rather obvious, but it helps a lot. When you’re constantly hanging around couples all of the time, it’s no wonder you feel terrible. They’re great friends and you should spend time with them, but don’t forget the friends you have that are single. Hang out with them as a group to feel less lonely…and maybe even one of them will be interested in you without you realizing!

2. Spend time with family. This is probably another obvious one. For me, this meant moving back home, but for others this could just mean visiting every now and again or calling them on the phone. Your family is always going to be there, and talking to them is a great way to feel less lonely.

3. Date yourself. This one is the most crucial to me. Take yourself on dates, spoil yourself with attention and “me time.” You won’t regret giving your extra attention to your mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing.

4. Save that money. One of the perks of being single is that you don’t have to spend money on a significant other. Save your extra money for something you’ve really been wanting or start a travel fund.

5. Keep a journal. Every day, write down 3 things that you like about yourself or your life, 2 things that you would like to improve, and 1 thing that you’re thankful for. Work on the things that you need to improve and always think about the things that you like about yourself. Most of the time, if you feel confident about yourself, it’ll show through your attitude and will be attractive.

6. Don’t worry, don’t put yourself down. One of the biggest mistakes we make when we are single is complaining about how much we wish we had someone, how we don’t think we will ever find someone, or how we don’t understand why nobody likes us. First of all, someone does like you! You just don’t know it yet. You have to keep up faith that you will find someone because it’s that lack of faith that leads to the loneliness of being single. The feeling that you’ll never find someone.

7. Remember it comes when you least expect it. Live your life for you. Focus on you and bettering yourself. It will come when it’s supposed to, but until then, enjoy your life and cherish the extra time you get to spend with friends and family.

Stay Golden,

Emily

Real Talk: Anxiety & School

Wow. Y’all… I’m so sorry that I haven’t posted in a while, but this semester has been a WHIRLWIND. It’s definitely a fact that the P2 year is the hardest in pharmacy school.

I have been running around like a chicken with its head cut off. I haven’t had a chance to take in a solid breath. But here I am… on Fall Break… here to talk about the biggest issue in most of our lives; anxiety and stress.

I’ve always been a perfectionist. I’ve always needed to make all A’s and the Dean’s List. Over the years, this has proven to be bittersweet. This mentality forced me to work my butt off in high school, and because of it, I was 10th in my class. However, I’m always so stressed and so moody when school is in session. This is not the way to live. I’ve been allowing school to be the only important thing in my life over the years. I’ve been neglecting my friends and family, and for that, thank you for being so patient with me. I make myself so stressed and don’t give myself time to relax because that means neglecting my studying… risking my A. This is by far the most difficult thing for me. I feel guilty if I just go to the grocery store with my parents or anything like that.

In my case, this perfectionism is a part of my anxiety. It’s part of my life. Being diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), I know that it isn’t going to be easy to get rid of this perfectionism, but I’m trying.

However, perfectionism isn’t the only way that anxiety affects me. There’s also a social aspect to my anxiety. I always get anxious that people don’t really like me and that I’m alone, but I have a hard time going out and doing fun things because I get anxious in social situations. I’m constantly pushing myself into social situations to combat this. The good thing is that if I promise someone that I’m going to go somewhere, I CAN’T cancel. I get even more anxious to cancel plans, so this is a good way to force myself to go out and do things. I’m slowly working on being okay with going out and doing something fun every weekend even though I have to study.

Anyways… here we are. It’s Fall Break, and I’m still stressed. That’s pharmacy school for you… really that’s college in general. My anxiety pushes me to be the best I can be, but at what cost? My sanity? My friendships?

So here’s to the rest of the semester and trying to relax a little when I can. Good luck to everyone else in their endeavors! You got this!

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

Is It Worth It?

Bottom line, your peace is too expensive to be bought out by the ways of this world.

Just as a for instance, I recently found myself consumed in social media and all that came with it. How many likes did I get on my post? I followed them but why didn’t they follow me back? Am I weird? Am I annoying? Does no one care about me and what I have to say? They liked what someone else posted, why didn’t they like what I posted? Why would they put that on social media for the whole world to see?

I literally was allowing the voice of the enemy to come through and use social media as a tool against me. Against my happiness, and against my peace.

No, social media isn’t of the Devil, but it is of this world. And if I am allowing it to affect my joy, my peace, and my happiness, then it most certainly is a tool that he has used to try and tear me down. And the enemy is so good at finding tools that we use every single day to tear us down and make us feel worthless.

Wanting to feel accepted by everyone is a heavy burden to carry sometimes.

But it’s when you realize who you are in Christ that changes the game.

I turned up my praise and worship music to drown out the enemy. And after a long day of hearing the enemy’s voice, of allowing him to use multiple tools I had in my every day life, and of feeling beaten down, I allowed the Holy Spirit to enter in to all of those places that I felt weren’t good enough.

If what you are feeling about yourself doesn’t line up with the word of God and who HE says that you are, it is a lie from the enemy. Period. His words do not waver and He will never change His mind.

As daughters of the living God, we are not of this world. Therefore, the ways of this world cannot be used against us. Any weapon formed against us cannot and will not prosper.

If it costs you your peace, if it costs you your happiness, and if it costs you your joy, then it isn’t worth it. Cut it out, throw it away, take a break from it. And allow the voices of the enemy to be drowned out and stomped out by the true, pure, wonderful love of God and the truths and promises and amazing gifts that He has for you. Then, allow His love to transform you.

Stay Strong and Stay Golden

Love,

Taylor

Not Perfect, Still Worth It

One of my beautiful sisters in Christ wrote this on her blog. Please go check it out. She is an amazingly talented writer and she speaks the truth.

I love you, Rae!

Christians have often been called hypocrites because they go to church, preach to non-church goers about what they should be doing, and then go and sin themselves.  Well.  We should hold one another accountable for when we screw up.  NO ONE IS PERFECT.  Just because someone goes to church doesn’t make them a Christian and just because Christians believe in Jesus doesn’t mean they aren’t going to sin.

Christians are to turn to the Bible for answers, but sometimes it can be tricky to understand scripture.  We have leaders, such as Abraham, Sarah, Moses, David, and Esther from the Old Testament, whom we are supposed to follow as examples since they were faithful followers of God.  Even though all those that were mentioned are important as role models, they weren’t always the best examples.  If someone had never read the Bible stories or heard of the names I mentioned many Christians know by heart, they may be confused as to why these names are elevated if they do some digging through scripture.

Perfection among humans is an absolute lie.  The leaders that God hand-picked in the Bible even messed up occasionally.  Big, massive mistakes.  God never expected us to be perfect, but He does expect us to strive to be our best.

Abraham was the father of nations and the Jewish people.  His wife was Sarah (their former names were Abram and Sarai).  Even though we know him to be the father of nations, Abraham and Sarah were childless for a long, long, long time.  They thought Sarah was past her childbearing years and that God wasn’t going to follow through on His promise.  So, instead of being patient and waiting a little bit longer, Sarah and Abraham took matters into their own hands.  Not trusting God’s plan?  And we thought we were the only ones to ever doubt God and His timing.  The Father of Nations even did it!

Abraham had an immeasurable amount of faith, but he wasn’t immune to sin.  He slept with Sarah’s servant, Hagar so he could have a child.  But oops.  Not what God wanted!  Abraham and Sarah disobeyed God.  If you would like to read this one for yourself, you can find this story in Genesis 16: 1-12.

Another great leader in the Old Testament delivered the Jews from slavery in Egypt and led them to the promise land.  How did he come to certain duty?

Moses, a Hebrew man but reared as Pharaoh’s daughter’s son, escaped Egypt by running away after killing an Egyptian!  If he would have stayed, Pharaoh would have killed Moses for his crime and God wouldn’t have had someone outside of Egypt to go back (Exodus 2:11-15).  After God sent Moses back to Egypt to save his family, Moses led them towards the promise land, which was a really tiresome and long journey.  He was a murderer, but God used Moses to save His people from captivity.

Moses was  a murderer and coward, and yet God still used his mistakes to turn a terrible situation into something good.

And what about David? The one who killed Goliath the Giant with a slingshot, the runt of his family, the one after God’s own heart and hand-picked by God to be the king of Israel?  He wasn’t unblemished either.

Once he was king, David became lazy and wasn’t fighting as he should have been one day.  His laziness led to gazing at a married woman, Bathsheba, bathing upon a rooftop.  He slept with her and when she became pregnant, David sent Bathsheba’s husband to the front of the line so he would be killed in battle (2 Samuel 11:2-17).  An adulterer and a murderer?  Wow, some great king, right?  David messed up but he also realized his gigantic mistake and asked for repentance.  He didn’t receive a simple slap on the wrist as punishment either.  God is a merciful God, but also a just one.  He couldn’t let the man he appointed as king to get away with what he did (2 Samuel 12:7-14).

However, God still turned this situation around, and even though David and Bathsheba’s first child died, their second child was Solomon.  King Solomon would grow up to be a wise king over Israel.

Ever heard of Queen Esther?  What did she do?  She saved her people from being killed by being brave and courageous, but um, she didn’t exactly jump at the chance originally.  She hesitated and thought of what danger it would be to herself (Esther 3:9-14).  Yeah, Esther first thought of herself before her own family.  A little selfish, but she was human! Can you fault her too badly for it?

Esther’s cousin Mordecai left her with a little food for thought:

And who knows whether you have not come to the kingdom for such a time as this?”

-Esther 4:14

In other words, he was telling her, “Who knows?!  Maybe God created you for this specific moment!” We were all created for a purpose.

Esther wasn’t perfect, neither was Abraham, Sarah, Moses, or David.  They all were probably wondering, why God?  Why did you choose me?  They knew they weren’t perfect.  They knew they had made mistakes, and yet God was still able to work through them for His purpose.

No one’s sin is greater than another’s. All sins are seen on the same level in the eyes of God.  So that person I gossiped about just yesterday, or that time when I thought I was better than someone? It’s just as bad as committing murder like Moses and David.

God uses our blemishes and trials to turn lives around.  He turned my moments of weakness into a testimony for others to hear.  I once was shy and God said, “we’ll fix that,” and He sent me on several mission trips and a summer job where I became a local summer missionary.

We can be used in multiple ways, just like the imperfect role models from the Old Testament.  There are many others I could mention from the Bible as well, but then this post would be much longer…

Regardless, the leaders we look up to still sinned and messed up.  They are not idols to be worshipped because they are not perfect like God; however, their imperfections give us hope.  They were human just like you and me, and they were able to continue to do many great things for the Lord.  It should inspire us to do the same.  That’s why they are role models and people we should look to as examples.  Jesus didn’t arrive until the New Testament, so during the times of the Old Testament, Abraham, Sarah, Moses, David, and Esther, along with a few others, were the only role models people had.

Even today we can still learn valuable lessons from these leaders and their stories.  The leaders we have today aren’t perfect either and my prayer for the ones in power is that they keep in contact with our Lord and don’t lose sight of His purpose, and to not further their own agendas.

 

via Not Perfect, Still Worth It

To the Guys Who Think Girls Are Too Complicated

To the guys who think girls are too complicated,

First, I want to start off by saying you are partially right. Girls ARE complicated. I am not here to tell you otherwise. We are complicated because no two girls are exactly the same and not all girls are going to like the same things. But… ALL PEOPLE are this way.

However, there are a few things for certain that I think I can say that will help you on your quest for the right girls.

Starting off, I’ll give you a few common standards among girls that I have talked to

Be honest. Sometimes the truth hurts, but we would much rather you tell us the truth than a lie. Besides… we always seem to find out the truth.

Be respectful. Honestly, with the whole consent thing being an issue right now, I feel like I should make this known. It is attractive when a guy is respectful. Open doors for us…ask us if it’s okay for you to kiss us or do anything else. It will go a long way.

Be kind. There is nothing better than seeing your guy be kind to someone. Help out people when you can… be a good person.

Don’t play games. I don’t care how old you are, games don’t benefit anyone. If you like someone… tell them. If you don’t like someone… tell them. It is that simple.

Next, I’m going to give you some tips on how to deal with it when a girl is so different than you are used to.

Guys, let’s be honest. Getting a gift for a female can be the hardest thing… but it doesn’t have to be. Whenever you are trying to find a gift for a girl in your life, think about all of her favorite things. Give her something unique to her likes and not something generic. For example, I like sunflowers and lilies over roses any day. However, it’s the thought that counts so any time a guy would give me any gift I would love it no matter what.

Another thing is with physical boundaries. Some girls have different physical boundaries than others. For example, some girls don’t like to be hugged or kissed in public. Don’t be afraid to ask. It is much better to ask what she is comfortable with than to just assume.

Basically, what I am trying to tell you is that no, there is not one specific way to every girl’s heart, but it is quite possible to please your lady. Just watch out for the way she responds to things, learn what she is interested in, and be a good person.

It’s not that hard to please us when you try to get to know the woman that you are with.

Good luck and…

Stay Golden,

Emily

The Life of A Pharmacy Student As Told By Shondaland

Being a Pharmacy Student is always the most fun… right? Well, let’s see what Shonda has to say about how we feel.

We get excited about all of the things that we learn, but when we tell our friends about it all… their reaction is:

When your professor says “disregard everything you’ve been taught about this before because it is probably wrong”…

When your professor doesn’t respond to an urgent email:

When you literally study for days for an exam and don’t do nearly as well as you wanted:

When you go out with your friends instead of doing your work because YOU’VE HAD ENOUGH:

When someone asks you how pharmacy school is going and your only response is to smile and nod (and not even answer):

When your professor lets you out of class late:

When you have rotations and you’re concerned about human existence:

And last but not least… When you know you’re killing it and will keep killing it:

Stay Golden (I know I’m trying),

Emily

My Summer 2018 Plans

Gosh. This Summer is bound to be one to remember. I have so much planned, and I just hope I get to do it all.

Disclaimer: I am in no way trying to brag. I just wanted to update you guys on my life.

Concerts and Concerts GALORE. I am so thankful to be able to go see some of my absolute favorite bands/artists this summer. I was able to get a Country Megaticket. I am so excited to see all of the artists with a variety of my favorite people. From Rascal Flatts and Kenny Chesney in early Summer to Dierks Bentley and everyone in between.

Hiking and other Outdoor Adventures. I am hoping to be able to go hiking with my brother quite a bit this Summer as well as visiting some other fun other sights in NC.

Movies. I am very interested in going to a local Drive-In movie theater, but I’m not sure I’ll be able to do that.

Carowinds. I also want to go to Carowinds at least once this Summer, but I am not sure I will get to do that either.

Beach. I have a beach trip planned in mid-August and I literally cannot wait. I love the beach so much (as you all know).

All in all, this Summer will prove to be one of the best ones yet.

Stay Golden,

Emily

The Nice Ones Finish Last Until…

“The Nice Ones Finish Last.” It’s a quote we hear so often that it’s second nature to think. It’s honestly one of the most annoying things that I’ve ever heard, but it does indeed exist. The thing is, the nice ones are always going to finish last until…

They find the right person.

They find their passion (work or otherwise).

They work for it.

They believe in their abilities.

They focus on what is truly important.

They love unconditionally.

They realize what is right for them and what is not.

They forgive.

Basically, the nice ones do finish last, but they finish last on the things that are not meant for them. They finish last on the things that they don’t actually benefit from in the long run. That’s how life works. So, keep your head up… keep living life.

And as always…

Stay Golden,

Emily