If you have a close relationship with your parents and are going off to college, here are a few key things for you to remember as you embark on your new journey.
They are used to spending a lot of time with you.
This being said.. in the few months (or weeks) before you go off to college, things can get pretty tense. You’re trying to get in as much time as possible hanging out with your high school best friends or your high school sweetheart, and your parents are trying to keep you all to themselves. They will do this. You will get really upset with them from time to time, but you have to realize how this transition is affecting them. They have been really close with you for 17+ years now, and they just aren’t ready to give you up just yet.
Skype, Facetime, Talk on the phone.
Even if they don’t ask you to do these things, you should. It’ll make their day to see your face or hear your voice. You don’t have to do it every day, but try not to forget about them. All of these resources are great ways to show them how much you care and miss them.
Make sure to visit.
Now I understand that this isn’t a viable option for people that have homes many miles away from their college campus, but for the students that aren’t far away it is a perfect option. Plan to go home once a month or once every few months to spend time with your parents. It doesn’t have to be a surprise, but its more exciting that way.
Colleges have “Family Weekends”.
Make sure your parents know when the family weekends are at your university so that they can come visit you. They would just love to be shown around your campus and all of the spots you enjoy going during your free time.
And Finally… Just remember to drop in a text even if you are too busy for the other stuff.
Simple texts like “Hey mom, I was thinking about you today and wanted to tell you I love and miss you” mean the world to them. Even if you don’t have time to have a full conversation with them, at least drop in with a text once in a while to let them know you think about them.